Infertility is wondering why in the actual hell you were on birth control for so long when it is SO hard to get pregnant naturally.
Infertility is second guessing about wanting to share your journey because you don’t want a pity party, you just want to raise awareness.
Infertility is being irritated by the most minuscule thing. Is it really necessary to place the cheese in THAT spot in the fridge?!
Infertility is you or your partner being out of town the weekend you are ovulating.
Infertility is creating so many scenarios in your head of straight up telling people off because of insensitive comments that you anticipate they might say.
Infertility is gaining weight from the hormones, meds and stress.
Infertility is your FET nurse telling you the WRONG DOSAGE through an email (after making you wait 12 hours to respond to your email about last minute medication that needed to be ordered), taking that dosage, and then realizing that your calendar said something different, calling it to her attention, and her response is “Yes you are correct, so sorry”. Like B!*#@ this is YOUR job!
Infertility is hearing news that a close friend/family member is expecting, literally right after you find out you’re NOT pregnant.
Infertility is taking a pregnancy test the day before you start your period.
Infertility is hearing things like:
- “At least you know you can get pregnant.”
- “It wasn’t meant to be this time.”
- “You’ve been pregnant twice, you’re so fertile, it’ll happen!!”
- “You’re still young.”
- “Just try to relax and not think about it.”
- “At least you’re saving money.”
- “Have you tried [insert exercise, diet, vitamin, etc]…?”
- “Are you sure you want kids? You can have mine.”
- “Have you thought about adoption/surrogacy?”
…Stop it, we don’t want to hear it.
Infertility: The Silent Struggle 
Felt this one. They are all good but this nailed some things.
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Been reading though all you posts I can so relate after 12 years on our journey of infertility… it is exhausting and frustrating and maddening :(. The last thing on this post you wrote about what people told you… herd those and so many more… Sometimes people need to keep their thoughts to themselves their ‘helpful comments’ are not so helpful. I wish they could just say, I am sorry to hear that or I will be thing of you or praying for you let me know if you need anything… if you haven’t been through infertility you have no idea what its like! And I feel you on the pregnancy announcements… my one co worker who isn’t with the guy announced last year she was pregnant by ‘oops’ (as she had her tubes tied after her 2nd child with a different father for each) and we had just started treatments again… my heart broke and it was all I could do not to cry out loud on the video call meeting. I hear you girl and I am praying for your journey as well.
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