Social Media Woes

The things you see scrolling through social media… [insert eye roll emoji]

So many of us struggling in silence with infertility just sigh and scroll past the endless memes of those {not intentionally} mocking the woes of pregnancy and parenthood and how hard raising children can be. While we endlessly are wishing for those 2 pink lines and our BFP; not to mention we would do literally ANYTHING to get through a full term pregnancy and hell would even be forever grateful for the worst morning sickness, worst sleepers and most intense terrible twos you can imagine if it means we are finally blessed with our rainbow baby. Each day is a struggle and it all seems like such a far away dream; so much so that we helplessly would accept any of these things you complain about that make your lives, with all of your blessings, “so hard”.

God forbid you sweat through your sundress on a hot summer day while 8 months pregnant in 90% humidity; or can’t eat that spicy tuna roll or drink your favorite glass of wine. How terrible is it, really, that you stepped on that lego; or have to miss out on relaxing in that hot tub with your friends while they are 3 sheets to the wind, chugging your favorite flavors of White Claw as you sit on the side with your lime flavored La Croix, dipping your feet in? Is it really the end of the world that you have to wake up again at 3am because your little one didn’t sleep well and is crying for YOU to console them?

I would gladly be sweating my ass off in Death Valley wearing a snowsuit, eating nothing but insects and drinking curdled milk, while walking over hot sand in my bare feet and sleep deprived with no water or shade in sight if it meant that I could sustain a healthy pregnancy and finally have our rainbow baby. Granted, these circumstances absolutely could not sustain a healthy pregnancy, but you get the point! Don’t complain about or mock what God has blessed you with!

This may be coming across a bit harsh. I’m truly not trying to shame anyone who jokes about the woes of pregnancy or parenthood. I want to bring more awareness to the struggles of infertility and the reality that thousands, probably millions, of couples face in their journey to grow a family. If you’re guilty of saying or doing these things, it’s not your fault. The truth is if you haven’t personally struggled with infertility, you don’t get it and you never will, period. Also, maybe harsh… but 100% reality.